A Cowboys call to David Irving - from the path of Randy Gregory
OXNARD - It's one of the most unforgiving rules of football: "We only talk about the players who are with us.'' Out of sight, out of mind. That sort of thing.
David Irving is out of sight, having not joined the Dallas Cowboys at training camp in Oxnard, after spending most of the spring not joining them, either, and with a looming four-game suspension due to an NFL drug-program violation, not allowed to join them in the fall, either.
But I contend that the so-far-successful path navigated by Randy Gregory can be the trail that Irving follows as well. ... a path that brings him back into sight, back into mind.
Gregory, of course, is in the process of overcoming two years of drug-program suspension. He's back with the Cowboys now and doing well as a pass-rusher exhibiting the sort of talent that made him a blue-chip talent in the 2015 NFL Draft. He credits his comeback, in part, not only to therapy and medication, but also to people who cared.
"I think they (the Cowboys) believe in me,'' Gregory says. "First and foremost, I think they like me as a player and a person. ... They realized I was a person in need. And sticking by me through that tough part has worked. I've had a lot of support from players, coaches, the Jones family, and even fans.''
In Gregory's case, we're talking about two years of work, and an especially intense six months of effort before finally being reinstated by NFL commissioner Roger Goodell. Countless hours. A complete re-education regarding how to accept himself and how to forge his own happiness. A devotion to fatherhood (baby Sophia turns 2 in September). A need for loving support (that in Gregory's case, extended all the way to Hollywood with the presence of actor Sir Anthony Hopkins.)
Sound at all familiar?
Like Gregory, Irving is a young father. (Zoe is 5, and was the focus of a custody battle that was a huge part of his tumultuous offseason.) Like Gregory, Irving can be categorized by friends and loved ones as "misunderstood,'' though I would contend that sometimes Randy and David have been the ones "misunderstanding,'' too. Somewhere in here -- as all of us have brains that are wired differently than all the rest -- there can be issues not just with drugs (used as coping tools or otherwise) but also with mood problems, learning differences, social disorders. ...
Irving has Gregory-like talent. But he also has Gregory-like challenges. Amid the many reports that claim his problem is drug-related, I'm told his "rehab'' is more about working on the psychological and emotional side. ... just as much of Gregory's rehab work was.
"David Irving is dealing with off-the-field issues," Cowboys owner Jerry Jones said to open camp. "By agreement and by design, he is not here ... He is addressing his issues and they are ongoing.''
People within Irving's circle tell me that he is doing well, physically and psychologically. ... and that it would be a mistake to give up on him. Nevertheless, maybe the Cowboys are right in taking the out-of-sight/out-of-mind approach, because as Irving's teammates will say privately, he's difficult to rely on. Others might think the Cowboys should pour unlimited resources into helping Irving, basically "forcing'' help upon him.
Or maybe the answer exists somewhere in the middle, contact with a peer who "gets it,'' with a peer who doesn't want anything from Irving, with a peer who is only technically a teammate of his because the "paths'' they've traveled in the last couple of years have rarely crossed.
Maybe Randy Gregory is the guy who should call David Irving to offer support.
And maybe that's why Randy Gregory has already made that call.
A Dallas Cowboys call to David Irving ... from the path being traveled by Randy Gregory